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9 Questions To Answer To Identify And Meet Your Needs



If you are not clear about your needs, look at the following statements and see if a pattern emerges that will help you identify your unmet need. There are hundreds of different needs, but there are some common groups.

1. Do you answer ‘yes’ to three or more of these statements?

  • I become tense when someone is late.
  • I become annoyed by others’ sloppy standards.
  • I am a tidy and methodical person.
  • I can get snappy with disorganized people.
  • I like to have possession of the remote control.
    • Possible unmet need: To be right; to be perfect.

2. Do you answer ‘yes’ to three or more of these statements?

  • I’m always exhausted because I tend to rush around helping everyone out.
  • I know instinctively how to make people feel good.
  • I make a big effort to find out what is going on in the lives of friends and family so I can be there for them.
  • I feel outraged and resentful if people don’t appreciate me.
  • I send thoughtful presents and cards to friends and colleagues just to let them know I’m thinking of them.
    • Possible unmet need: To be approved of; to be needed; to be loved; to be cherished; to be liked.

3. Do you answer ‘yes’ to three or more of these statements?

  • When things are going well for me, I literally light up inside.
  • I work very long hours to ensure something is a success.
  • I’d rather die than be a failure.
  • I’m really aware of how friends and colleagues are doing and can be quite competitive.
  • I am great at achieving goals.
  • I have workaholic tendencies – I feel tense inside if I’m not accomplishing what I set out to do.
    • Possible unmet need: To achieve; to be successful; to feel worthwhile; to be accepted.

4. Do you answer ‘yes’ to three or more of these statements?

  • If I’m criticized or misunderstood, I sulk.
  • People say I can be difficult and too emotional, but what’s wrong with that?
  • I know how to make a really big scene if I don’t get what I want.
  • Rules are meant to be broken.
  • I tend to brood a lot about my negative feelings.
    • Possible unmet need: For acclaim; to be special; to be different; to be heard; to be understood.

5. Do you answer ‘yes’ to three or more of these statements?

  • I’m an expert in my area.
  • I love to study something in depth and really get my teeth stuck into it.
  • I am the eternal student.
  • I often lose track of time because I get carried away with what I’m doing.
  • I won’t try something new until I’m confident that I know everything I need to know.
    • Possible unmet need: To be competent; to be the expert; to be capable.

6. Do you answer ‘yes’ to three or more of these statements?

  • Anxiety is my middle name.
  • I worry about everything and everybody.
  • I like having a boss I can respect.
  • I find it difficult to make a decision without asking everyone including my friends, my parents and my colleagues first.
  • It takes me ages to change jobs.
    • Possible unmet need: For security; for safety; for support; for certainty.

7. Do you answer ‘yes’ to three or more of these statements?

  • I get bored easily.
  • I’m curious about stuff.
  • I love travelling and having fabulous holidays.
  • I am all over the place most of the time – people think I’m a bit dizzy.
  • I always feel like I’m missing out on things.
    • Possible unmet need: To be stimulated; to be free; to be satisfied.

8. Do you answer ‘yes’ to three or more of these statements?

  • I like to challenge people. No one could call me a shrinking violet.
  • I tend to have huge temper tantrums.
  • I am independent and don’t like people trying to tie me down.
  • I don’t rely on anyone.
  • I love trying to achieve the impossible.
    • Possible unmet need: To protect yourself; to determine your own course in life.

9. Do you answer ‘yes’ to three or more of these statements?

  • I’m one of life’s peacemakers – I can’t bear a scene.
  • There’s no point dwelling on the negative – is there?
  • I like my home comforts.
  • Most people tend to get too stressed about useless things – what’s the point?
  • I go with the flow.
    • Possible unmet need: For calm; for agreement; for steadiness; for peace.

The problem with our unmet needs is that we assume people know what we need and are in some way choosing to withhold their love, support or praise. That’s not the case – they simply don’t know. (If they do know and they are withholding what you need, you should ask yourself why you are spending time with these people anyway.)

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Book: The Big Wake Up Call ~ Author: Suzy Greaves

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291. Growth and change can be painful, but nothing is as painful as being stuck somewhere you don't belong

292. Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.

293. People won't change until they want to. You only can spark a thought in their mind and it's up to them to ponder on it or discard it.

294. Dreams are there to inspire and motivate you, but at the end of each day don't forget to have a reality check: did you do anything that took you closer to your dreams? Always remember that dreams don't work unless you do

295. Life is like a game of chess. To win you have to make a move. Knowing which move to make comes with in-sight and knowledge, and by learning the lessons that are acculated along the way. We become each and every piece within the game called life.

296. Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.

297. Never let a bad situation bring out the worst in you. Be strong and choose to be positive.

298. Being hurt is a byproduct of being human. The smartest are those who take the lessons with them so they don't make the same mistake twice and the strongest are the ones who learn and keep living with an open heart. The best people do both.

299. Change the way you frame your thoughts. Instead of being upset that you aren't where you want to be, be excited for what you will be.

300. Hustle more and complain less

301. The one who falls and gets up is so much stronger than the one who never fell.

302. I'm not arrogant, I'm just humble enough to know that I'm a different thing and not everyone deserves to know me.


303. Success is sweet and sweeter if long delayed and gotten through many struggles and defeats

304. Circle gets smaller and smaller until youre left with nobody but yourself. Keep that the tightest circle you will ever know.

305. I like a state of continual becoming, with a goal in front and not behind

306. Gotta move different if you want different things

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308. Your mind has the power to change all of the outer aspects of your life. You create your life from the inside out.

309. With the new day comes new strength

310. Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think

311. Never bother to be better than anyone else except your previous self.


312. Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted

313. Do your best to get as far away from negativity in your life. It'll only bring you down.

314. Always appreciate where you are in your journey. You may not be where you want to be, but anything worth having takes time.

315. Mindset is everything. Once you believe you can achieve something, you most likely will.

316. How many times will you tell yourself that you deserve better until you actually do something about it? Take action now and give yourself the life you deserve. People won't help you, only you can help you.


317. Your purpose should drive you. Your purpose should keep you going when set backs come your way. Your purpose should give you the mental toughness to move forward until you get where you want to be in life.

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263. The most beautiful things in the world are felt with the heart.

264. Those who say it can't be done are usually interrupted by others doing it.

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266. Man is not made for defeat. A man can be destroyed but not defeated.

267. Success is going from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm

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269. That which does not kill us makes us stronger.

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271. Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it

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273. The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.

274. Success is all about solid and sincere strategy

275. Work harder than you think you did yesterday.

276. Sometimes the answer to prayer is not that it changes life, but that it changes you

277. Either get busy living or get busy dying.

278. Today, do what others won't, so tomorrow you can accomplish what others can't.

279. We did not come to fear the future. We came here to shape it.

280. The planet is fine. The people are fucked.

281. Be a life-long learner, and strive to develop yourself in all areas throughout the course of your life

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283. Pain makes me stronger and wiser, pain is my motivator. Pain makes me better. I am thankful for my pain.

284. Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals human spirit

285. Luck is great, but most of life is hard work.

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287. Be thankful for what you have. Work hard for what you don't have.

288. You can't let one bad moment spoil a bunch of good ones

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290. It's better to be an authentic loser than a false success, and to die alive than to live dead

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